A thriving sex life is important for penis health, but sometimes men get a little wrapped up in their own gratification and rush into the act. One of the most important sex tips for men to heed, then, is to slow down and show a female partner some extra attention now and then. This can help to make things more balanced, and a sensual massage is a great way to do it. The following tips will help men incorporate this activity into their sex lives.
1) Don’t anticipate. Be in the moment.
A sensual massage can be part of foreplay, but it can also be an end in itself. Treating it as the latter will allow men to put their full attention into the present moment, which helps them be more invested in their partner’s pleasure. A sensual massage shouldn’t be a way for a man to get what he wants; the best massage will be focused on the partner’s experience and enjoyment. If the activity culminates in sex, then great – and if not, that’s fine, too.
2) Set the scene.
Nothing will kill the relaxing and intimate mood of a sensual massage like a ringing phone, squawking alarm clock or other noisy intrusion. Turn off phones, TVs and other audible distractors. Putting on some soft music and lighting a few candles can heighten the experience for the massage recipient.
3) Use good hygiene.
A man should have clean hands before giving his partner a massage, and his nails should be trimmed. Some partners enjoy a bit of scratching as part of the sex act, but this likely isn’t a desirable component of a sensual massage.
4) Attend to the whole body.
A sensual massage should not only stimulate, but relax the partner. This means doing more than rubbing the obvious erogenous zones – breasts, buttocks and vagina. Pay attention to her legs, back, arms, feet, neck and so on.
5) Hit up more subtle erogenous zones.
Many women are aroused by touch to the ears, back and sides of the neck and even the inner elbows and back of the knees. Experiment – gently – to see if the partner’s interest is piqued. Goosebumps are generally a good indicator.
6) Use oils (right).
First, if a man is using an oil with a fragrance, he should make sure the woman receiving the massage likes – or better yet, loves – the scent. Then, a man should apply the oil to his hands, not the woman’s body. Rub the hands together for a little while to ensure they’re warm.
7) Don’t just use hands.
Men can get other body parts in on the massaging action. They can use their forearms and even their lips and tongues. Massaging the earlobes with the mouth, for example, can be incredibly stimulating. Also make use of an oft-neglected tool: warm breath.
8) Vary pressure accordingly.
It’s a good idea to start with gentle pressure to the large muscle groups in the legs, back and arms. Once blood flow is stimulated and a man has paid attention to the whole body, a partner may specify particular areas of tension to be addressed a bit more aggressively. Every body is different, so a man should be informed about his partner’s preferences. She may like deep, steady pressure to particular areas, kneading motions, circular motions or “chopping” techniques. A man’s style and pressure should be adjusted to his partner’s desires.
9) Massage forbidden areas.
This doesn’t just mean to touch her private parts. A standard massage generally doesn’t include intimate areas like the pelvis, buttocks and around the breasts, but for romantic partners, these neglected areas of hidden tension are not off limits. Rub her where she’s never been rubbed before.
10) Get sexual.
While massaging her external body with one hand, a man may insert a finger inside his partner and stimulate her G-spot. He might also massage her clit. This turns a sensual massage into a truly erotic experience for the woman, and she may achieve orgasm.